Allow me to begin with my thesis statement; curiosity is the fruit of maturity.
As I have grown in my faith and become more and more convinced of the truth found Matthew 22 it has caused me to become way more curious about people. For those of you not familiar with Matthew 22, let me catch you up to speed.
In Matthew 22 Jesus is asked a question, “Teacher, which commandment is the greatest.” Jesus replies with, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength.” He does not end here. He goes on to say, “and the second is like it, love your neighbor as yourself. All the law and the prophets hang on these two commands.”
Obviously, we know that we are to love God and to love others if we are Christians. But let me ask the question, have we ever thought of the idea that loving your neighbor is like loving God? Jesus says, the second command, the command to love one’s neighbor, is “like it”. The “it”, being the first command of loving God. He also would go on to say in Matthew 25 that what we do to others, we do to Him. How we treat the poor, the imprisoned, the sick, etc, is felt by Christ Himself. I didn’t say it. Jesus did. Loving others, is in fact, the fruit that is produced when our heart loves God properly.
As a Bible college and seminary student, I was taught to be a student of the Bible and to be a student of God. In my churches growing up I was taught the same. In the summer Christian summer camps I attended, I got the same message. I was taught to be a student of the Bible and to love God and to love people. Yet, something was oddly missing in my spiritual formation and for much of my formal training and in my time in church. While I was taught to love others, I was also taught to fear them. Avoid sin. Avoid sinners. Don’t drink, don’t dance, don’t chew, and don’t go with girls who do was actually said in a church I attended at a child.
This mentality is at odds what we see of Jesus in the Scriptures. For as many live their lives trying not to have sin rub off on them, Jesus lived in such a way that righteousness rubbed off Him and onto others.
There seems to be an us versus them idea that has crept into much of the church world. Amongst the churchy, you can hear it in the verbiage that is used to describe people who are not Christ followers. Many Christians use “the world” as labels for those outside the church and use it in such a way that it’s more like a derogatory term of insult than anything else. Sadly, far too many Christian communities do not resemble a lighthouse but rather a holy huddle hiding its light under a bushel basket, fearing the influence of the world and seemingly forgetting they are the ones who are to be doing the influencing.
I would suggest that this is not a sign of spiritual maturity but rather a blatant showing of spiritual immaturity. Safety is not the call that God has on the life of His followers. In fact, He said, they hated me, don’t be surprised if they hate you too.
Allow me to reiterate my thesis statement: curiosity is the fruit of maturity. How does this tie into what I said above. Well, if Jesus was serious about what He said in Matthew 22 and how we treat others is in fact felt by Christ, then our spiritual formation should not just include Theology Proper (the study of God and His attributes) but should also include anthropology. While my use of anthropology might not be the proper sense of the word here, I think you understand what I mean. We must be students of those we are called to love so that we can more effectively love them.
The truth is this, because I love God, I seek to know Him. Many Christians say they love their neighbors but do zero homework on how to love them better. The first way to demonstrate one’s love is to get to know the object of the love so that you can love them more effectively. Get to know their stories and get to know the whys behind what they do. This is not hard, but it also isn’t popular. Get curious. Approaching one’s neighbor armed with trite statements like, “God said it, I believe it, that settles it” will never lead to life change. Approaching others with a genuine love and curiosity is where true connection happens. Much of the problem is that many church people have treated those who aren’t in the church as targets of a command (Think the Great Commission) rather than objects of their love. People aren’t goals to be conquered they are valuable image bearers of God to be cherished.
These ideas have led me down a path over the last several years that have caused others to call me woke, been the reason for verbal confrontations and social media ones, and even been reasons people have left my church. Yet, I cannot stop. My curiosity of others has caused me to research many topics that I lacked knowledge in. My research sprung up from a deep seeded conviction that I could not love people well if I did not understand their stories. Questions like, why has there been so much racial unrest in our country? Why do men and women of color cry out “Black lives matter”? Why are people trying to sneak over our borders? What is redlining? Why is quality healthcare more accessible for the wealthy? Why is quality of education based on where you were born when my state has the “same standards” for all schools? Why are women limited in many places with what they are allowed to do? There are so many questions to be asked, and these questions should be asked. After all, its hard to love people well when we don’t know their story. Where did you come from? Where do you desire to go?
Simply put, I cannot claim to love people if I am unwilling to my homework.
I am quite aware that there will be some who read this and struggle with the words that I write because of their deep seeded belief that people need Jesus and the message of the cross is where power exists to change lives. I too believe that it is in the power of the cross that brings true change, but I also believe that we ignore both Christ’s example and many of His teachings if we limit our call to merely preaching the Gospel. After all Jesus fed the hungry, Jesus healed the sick, Jesus elevated women, Jesus defended the downcast, Jesus shared meals with sinners, Jesus offered hope to criminals, Jesus instilled value into the lives of all He met, and so much more. This list is not exhaustive, but it is a demonstration of the fruit of the Gospel. I cannot claim to love someone and at the same time be content with their pain. Jesus did all these things and died on the cross.
While I recognize that food does not save a soul, I do believe it can be a step toward salvation. When you tell a starving person, “you need Jesus” do you know what they are thinking? They are thinking, “no, I need a sandwich.” Start where they are. Love them there. That’s what Jesus would do.
In conclusion, get curious. As the hard questions. Sit at a table with a person who is living a life you disagree with and ask words of clarification. Share a coffee with a person who votes differently than you and ask them to articulate their why. And PLEASE, don’t use their answers as a means to judge them more effectively. Use their answers as a means to love them better.